The transition from using a diaper to using the toilet is just a matter of time. It is a huge relief on the budget for sure, as diapers can get very costly. It is certainly more hygienic and convenient to not have to handle dirty diapers, and, instead, to just flush it down the toilet. However, the process itself can be taxing to the child and/or the parents. Look around this website for great potty training tips and tricks. Discover the different methods advocated by different experts. Read about the product reviews for the gear you will be needing for this transition. Learn the practical steps to a smooth transition.
While there are no rules that are set in stone, from a broad perspective, there are guidelines, generally common sense potty training tips, you can follow that most experts agree are effective for a painless experience.
Tip #1: No Means No
Do not force it upon your child. You can try to convince him by talking and/or encouraging him. However, strong resistance means your child might not be ready at the moment. Try to observe if your child is experiencing some difficulties in school or with his caregiver. Find out if your child is feeling something else that is uncomfortable — maybe a tooth is bothering him?
Most experts agree that the child needs to be willing for a trouble-free transition.
Tip #2: You Can Prepare Your Child
Plenty of parents get themselves all ready with information from books or the internet before you can say the word, “potty!” Then they begin the process with the child. This leaves the child confused and wondering.
In the same manner that you are learning about this yourself, your child can, too! You can start talking about the potty with your child way before you start the training process. It is best to ease in the topic in a subtle way.
Make her understand what people do in the potty. Talk to her about the wet diaper when you are changing her diaper. Later on, you could dump the contents of the dirty diaper into the toilet and, if she’s willing, have her flush it.
When you purchase the potty chair, talk to her about it and explain in simple terms what it is for. Have her practice sitting on it while she has her clothes on. Talk to your child about her older sister’s underwear and that she could one day choose her own pair.
In other words, teach first. Having your child be aware can make a world of difference.
Tip #3: Clear Your Calendar
Plan your schedule well. Do not start when you know you will be having visitors staying over. Do not do it just before some holiday that you celebrate. Do not do it when you are about to travel. Plan to start on a clear calendar week, or two.
This transition period will require much of your attention. Having to do other things at the same time will only stress you out, and eventually affect the child. Talk to relatives and make them aware of this event. Make some ground rules with other caregivers about your training process and/or method.
Tip #4: Do Not Compare
The saying “different strokes for different folks” rings true to potty training because there are as many ways to potty train a child, as there are many experts on the subject matter. Dr. Sears approach is child-led. The Rosemond approach is more parent-led.
Each child is different. Therefore, a parent must not expect the same process that had worked on another child, to work with certainty on her own child. How to potty train a boy is, of course, different from how you would train a girl.
A child could have a completely different experience as the next door neighbor’s child had, or even his older sibling had. Whether your child starts or completes the training process sooner or later, has nothing to do with how another kid progressed in potty training, and has everything to do with your own child’s character. Your child’s experience depends on his own readiness, his personality, his temperament, your own readiness, and family values, culture, and beliefs.
In fact, comparing with another child has negative effects. When you worry that your child’s progress is slow compared to another, you are only putting stress on yourself for no good reason. Furthermore, your child will sense your disappointment and will then stress out himself because he is worried that you are disappointed with him. Negativity in and around the home will certainly not help your child with the transition.
Tip #5: Maintain Positive Attitude
Potty training tips and tricks are being thrown around like candy. In some ways, it is true that everybody is an expert. But I believe everybody agrees on tip number 5.
Be cheerful and positive. Always encourage and give praise. Toilet training is nothing to worry about. Regardless of anything, your child will be potty trained. Whether it takes a day, three days, or three months, he will be potty trained.
Potty training does elicit a lot of anxiety and confusion in many parents. It doesn’t help that there are a million advice readily given by a lot of “experts” out there. Just when you have accepted and noted a bit of fact, another comes along to contradict this.
Do not let this get to you. When overwhelmed and confused, it only means you are not ready. Calm down and keep it together. After all, you are the parent. Achieving your potty training goals can be very rewarding because it is a great milestone in your little one’s young life. Plus, you can use this time to bond with your child even more because the precious little angel will require your attention during this time anyway.
Keep a happy disposition. Embody the positive attitude. Keep calm and a smiling face despite setbacks. This will not only help your child with potty training. He will also develop an exceptional character.
Tip# 6: You Are Not Alone
When you read about this topic online, there are very few who emphasize “asking for help”. But I feel it is one of the essential potty training tips out there.
As a parent, and it is mostly mothers who focuses on potty training, don’t think you have to go through this alone. Elicit help. Ask your husband (or wife) to help out by giving him/her a part in this process. For example, have him take the other kids to their activities during this time. Be specific with his part and show him your appreciation in a big way (men like that). If grandparents are around, give them specific jobs as well. If they visit on a regular basis, give them that time to remind your child about going to the bathroom so you can take a break.
If you are single, call on the grandparents to help, or an aunt, an uncle, a close friend. If you suddenly run out of training pants, go down your contact list on your phone and ask somebody to get you some.
The key with soliciting help is to be specific in what and how they can help you with.
If you have nobody, get online. But don’t go everywhere online because that will only confuse you more. Pick a forum or a website you agree with. Then comment or say something. Sometimes, even if you don’t have anybody to help out physically, just talking to somebody helps. And a lot of times, other people have great tips.
You are not alone. Most people are friendly and willing to help out.
I am a single mother of two very funny little girls. My life is joyful because they make me laugh every single day. They took me to two very different paths with regards to toilet training.
Training pants and what not…
I did the regular potty training with the older one. I hadn’t used one specific method with her. I didn’t do the quick techniques such as the “3 day potty training.” Yet I didn’t do the very relaxed method either that Dr. Sears advocated in which you just let the child lead. I was somewhere in the middle.
“Signing” the word toilet helped.
One thing I know helped a lot was that we did baby sign with her. Signing the word “toilet” seemed to make her communicate with me more. I would just look to her when I feel it’s about time to try to go to the toilet again and I would sign to her “toilet” with a questioning tone/face. She would sign back to me. Eventually, she signed on her own to tell me she needed to go.
My diaper-free baby…
My experience with the younger one was very different. It’s called Elimination Communication (EC) by some. Others call it Natural Infant Hygiene (NIH). I just refer to my child as a “diaper-free” baby.
I will talk more about my experience in upcoming articles. I know there are some bits of tips and tricks in my story that some people might find useful in their own on-going story.
In the meantime, do not panic. Overwhelm, confusion, and worry can only do harm.
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Cheers! And congratulations in advance for one of the first major milestones in your child’s life.
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